Friday, July 04, 2008

Right there in the socket

The other day I found myself in a conversation with....let's call him Cal. Cal is one of these people who I met online, sent the odd email to but other than that, we never spoke.

So we exchange numbers and I, with a head cold, called him (as you do). The conversation was weird to say the least...there's not much more I can say apart from that. Needless to say I don't expect to ever hear from him again.

Why are guys so weird? You ask a straight question and for some reason logic doesn't dictate they answer it directly. So when I asked someone "tell me about yourself" their response was "honesty, hard working, faithful..." and then put the rest in capitals at which point I switched off.

Honestly, it's not that complicated. A simple question requires a simple answer. Problem is that people have too many hidden agendas to the point where they can never be straight. There are few questions I won't answer, those I may not answer now I may answer at a later date when the listener may really be ready for the answer.

Often we ask questions we don't want answers to: "How many people have you ever slept with?" "Does my bottom look big in this?" "Do you love me?" "What do you really think of me?" "What do you think of...?"

If I ask, I expect an answer, even if it isn't the answer I want to hear. At some point I will have to listen and then decide if it's true what to do. If not, put it in context and move on. Sometimes the truth hurts, we have to be adult enough to deal with it. And, hopefully, not carry a chip on our shoulder because we can't deal with the answer.